The Voice of Fear
It’s time to stop allowing that voice inside your head to call the shots on your life.
You know the one I mean.
The nagging, bitter, saboteur talker that keeps you stuck constantly telling you in a variety of ways:
“I’m not good enough”
“What will they think if I did that?”
“I don’t deserve to be happy”
“I’m going to fail”
“Why bother, i’m not smart or talented enough to do that”
You believe that voice has power & reason, but throws you bouts of self-doubt and insults. Why question the voice of reason?
We are hooked to the voice because oddly it makes us feel safe. It prevents us from stepping out of our comfort zone and doing BIG things. It’s the survival part of our brain that has not changed over millions of years, protecting us from the “sabre toothed tiger”. It’s designed to go on high alert to anything that has the potential to harm you; including failure and rejection.
We ALL have this voice, and it will always be a part of us. The key is whether you decide to listen to it.
Instead of attempting to make it go away, learn how to work with it. Give it your own rules. Next time you feel resistance to something new, see it as a sign you’re on the right track. Ego doesn’t want us to change. It will do anything to keep you exactly where you are. Give it the backseat as oppose to allowing it to drive.
I’ll share with you a recent experience I had with my own fear voice. A couple months ago, I was invited to speak at a workshop to share parts of my story and teach about trusting your intuition.
Initially, I was excited to be asked but it was quickly replaced with worry and doubt. I questioned my ability to speak and whether or not they would even care what I had to say. I began thinking of all the inconveniences, “I have to work the next day”, “I’m not ready”, “What is the point”. It started to stress me out to the point where I nearly cancelled.
I kept my word and made my way to the workshop despite feeling nervous and uncomfortable. This is what stepping through fear feels like, it’s uncomfortable. I put one foot in front of the other. I was nervous, my throat was dry, my hands were clammy and I even felt a bit light headed.
I gave myself permission to be authentic and real, and within 10 minutes of talking I felt a shift. The nervousness began to fade away and I was in the zone. All that nonsense in my head could have prevented me from having such an incredible experience. I left that night feeling proud that I walked through the fear. This is where our true potential lies…
So which voice are you going to choose. Your inner critic or your heart?
I challenge you this week to become aware of your self-talk. Don’t try to resist or make it go away, just be a witness and notice what it says to you. Take it one step further by doing something that your saboteur wouldn’t like. Begin to strengthen your intuitive muscles and learn the difference between fear and your heart.
